Tiffany Dufu

Alternatingly inspiring and infuriating. I don't know who needs to hear this, but it is NOT women's fault that most men don't carry their load at home. Not every stymied middle-manager mom suffers from Household Control Disorder. Sexism is real. Patriarchy is real. Implying that women should be able to dismantle the power of oppression in their own lives by changing their mindset and asking nice (sorry, "delegating with joy") is gaslighting of the highest order. Somehow the author seems to have missed the entire concept of emotional labor, which is a major oversight. But, still, the overall message that you don't need to -- and literally can't -- do it all, is one that needs to be repeated as many times as possible.

The writing was smooth and engaging. I thought the memoir elements were too much at first, but in later chapters I appreciated how they made it more concrete, and I actually looked forward to hearing about her perfect husband and kids.… (altro)