Ali Adler

Disclaimer: I received a free ARC from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.

Ok. So. I don't need to know how to fuck a woman but I noticed that it was written by a lesbian so I was curious. I started flipping through the book & ending up reading it over the weekend.

It's crass, crude, & full of curse words...but...it's also humorous & contains some pretty solid advice that a lot of men need.

It's not just about how to fuck a woman. It contains advice on dating, wanting the woman you have, how to treat a woman & lots more.

One of the most useful sections is title "What Women Never Want to Hear". I found myself agreeing with most of it but my favorite was this little tidbit:
"Never say-I mean, never say any version of: "Relax/calm down/you're so emotional." "I can't understand you when you're like this." "You're too emotional." "What the hell are you crying about?" "Oh God. Stop crying. Stop it." "I can't listen to the crying." "I can't trust anything that comes out of your mouth four days a month." Any variation of this riff isn't good for you or your penis."
As a woman, this seems like common sense but it always shocks me how men just don't understand that telling us to calm down only makes us angrier. It shocks me even more that they don't learn that after the first couple of times they do it. I mean. Has a woman ever calmed down just because a guy said "Calm down. You're being too emotional."? I never have. My response is always the same "Shut up asshole. I have feelings. It would do you a world of good to take your feelings out of that box you keep them locked up in & acknowledge them on occasion."
Of course, this usually leads to the guy calling me a bitch...which should also be on the list of things to never say to a woman.

One of my favorite sections is titled "The Grown-up Version of the Gold Sticker" & contains a list of close to 50 things that a man can do for his woman that will improve his sexual status. It includes things like:
-Remember the kind of ice cream she loves both. Buy 2 pints. Eat neither.
-Clean out the fridge of all the disgusting, old, outdated, moldy things.
-On the off chance that you ever let her drive, keep your opinions to yourself.
The book should come with a laminated copy of this list to put on your fridge.

There's a chapter dedicated to how to correctly & kindly break up with women. I want to send a lot of men the pages in this chapter.

It does contain a chapter at the end just for women. It doesn't really contain anything we haven't heard before...don't be too picky but have standards, don't try to change your guy, don't assume he understands you, blah, blah, blah. This was my least favorite chapter.

The advice is solid enough that I passed the book on to my 19 yr old son...much to his embarrassment. ;-)
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Well, this book is really about the title on a lot of levels. The author informs us that as a lesbian she has the unique ability to see things from both the male and female perspective. The honest truth is that there is not only a lot of practical information about the title but also relationships in general bridging the gap between the genders. The principle theme is that women want to be listened to and understood but men see themselves as problem solvers always offering solutions. Women don't want solutions, they want a sympathetic ear. Also, men want immediate gratification and women want a slow build up across the board. (hunters and gathers). Good tips for both single and married men and women.… (altro)