For years people have been telling me that I should meditate. and for years that meant nothing to me - in that I couldn't even picture what that would be/mean (even having grown up around Buddhists). In a moment of need, I started googling books on mindfulness and guess what was at the top of these lists? This book which someone had already given me.
I dug it out of my book shelves and jumped in. It was the first time that I felt like I had practical instructions and explanations for what mindfulness and mediation WAS and HOW to just start doing it. While I still struggle with anxiety, this book has shown me the safe place that is within my own mind and helped me find the edge between how I FEEL vs my actual self. Just a little bit of space from my emotions. ( )

I picked up The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion mostly because its cover is very similar to the cover of The Mindful Way through Depression, which I'd recently read and enjoyed. Despite the similar cover, similar title (and subtitle), and similar subject, the approach is pretty different between the two books. Both seek to help readers approach our negative emotions and patterns of thought differently, but where The Mindful Way through Depression outlines a specific, eight-week program of mindfulness meditation combined with cognitive-behavioral techniques, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion is less structured and less specific in its recommendations. It's more a book full of suggestions, which I see as both an asset and a detriment.

The first half of the book offers a description of mindfulness meditation and the studied benefits, while the second half focuses on metta, or self-compassion meditation, which is the core of the practice. Germer offers scripts as guidance for different ways of using both types of meditation, but there's no specific protocol to follow so one can make the practice one's own. Germer explains that it's most effective to practice metta both informally in one's daily life and formally in a sitting practice, but any practice, he assures readers, is better than none.

On the one hand, I like the flexibility that Germer's book offers, especially since one of the biggest barriers to meditation practice for me is finding the time to do it. But this flexible approach also requires me to envision and put into place my own practice rather than just following someone else's set schedule, which throws up another barrier to my actually doing the practice.

The book could have been shorter by about half, and some of the examples were a little weird to me (I've got a low tolerance for case studies from a therapist's own practice; it kind of makes me feel creepy and smacks of anecdotal vs scientific evidence) but still, I enjoyed the book quite a bit. There were some specific insights that lit the light bulb above my head and have shifted the way I see conflicts and my reactions of anger in daily life, and I feel enthusiastic about my ability to actually design a daily practice that I might be able to keep up.

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Vanuit de eeuwenoude oosterse wijsheid dat ieder mens liefde nodig heeft en die ook verdient, pleit de Amerikaanse psychotherapeut Christopher Germer ervoor onszelf niet de schuld te geven van onze problemen. Liefdevolle vriendelijkheid, een begrip uit de boeddhistische psychologie, en zelfcompassie zijn, aldus Germer, een direct tegengif tegen iedere vorm van angst die ons verlamt of ons belet de volgende stap in te zien die we moeten nemen als we geen raad meer weten met een probleem. Aan de hand van eenvoudige, wetenschappelijk onderbouwde oefeningen en technieken leert Germer de lezer om te gaan met destructieve emoties, deze te aanvaarden en meer zelfbewust te zijn. ( )

This seems to be a western-reader's book on meditation. It's full of psychological studies, statistics, and tiny little meditation exercises meant to trick you into not being such an asshole (to yourself and everyone else).

I have always loved the promise of meditation, but it has also always seemed a little bit like believing in unicorns. I did my time believing in unicorns, and it got me nowhere. But statistics, psychiatric and medical studies? Those I can get behind.

And - so far, so good. ( )

This seems to be a western-reader's book on meditation. It's full of psychological studies, statistics, and tiny little meditation exercises meant to trick you into not being such an asshole (to yourself and everyone else).

I have always loved the promise of meditation, but it has also always seemed a little bit like believing in unicorns. I did my time believing in unicorns, and it got me nowhere. But statistics, psychiatric and medical studies? Those I can get behind.

And - so far, so good. ( )