Carolyn Conger

Death - the subject no one wants to deal with. Our culture denies it, fights it and sees it, not so much as an ending but, as a failure. Which leaves anyone actually dealing with the process of dying at a loss. Is it better to put every ounce of energy into flailing at the inevitable or would it be better to meet death head on and make it the capstone of a life well lived? Each person must answer this for themselves but for those who wish to face this final process with dignity and courage, therapist Carolyn Conger has written the guidebook that will strengthen and inspire. Drawing on more than thirty years of experience working with terminal patients, Conger understands the confusion and fear this process holds. Her coping methods run the gamut from deep soul searching and the tying up of psychological loose ends to more esoteric explorations of energy medicine, self-hypnosis and dreamwork. While some of these methods may give some people pause, everything she presents is practical and down-to-earth, no doubt due to her work with prison populations. Some of the exercises have a spiritual bent but there is something here for everyone regardless of religious view (or lack thereof). Included are numberous exercises, illustrative case studies and plentiful resources thus making this the definitive manual on dealing with death and dying.

With perfect balance, Conger presents death in a way that calms fears yet does not sugar coat. She also does not shy away from presenting the heroic nature of facing death with mindfulness and courage, for in this process life can take on its deepest meaning. With being over 50 and having an ill parent, I found this book particularly poignant. I gained a new and fresh appreciation for what this process entails and was especially moved by the "Use Your Imagination" chapter. More than a book about the process of dying, it is just as much about a living a meaningful life. Highly, highly recommended for anyone and everyone.… (altro)

Through the Dark Forest by Carolyn Conger is a sensitive approach to facing death. Rationally, we all know our life will end. However, most of us are content to wait ‘till the very last minute to face that moment. This book is a guide to dealing with not the medical aspects of death but rather handling the transcendent issues.
The book has a deeply spiritual aspect. I was struck by the author’s acceptance of all sacred traditions. She does not suggest one is better than another, although her writing indicates she personally is more comfortable with shamanistic beliefs. Her writing is gentle and tolerant, easy to follow and filled with clearly explained exercises. In the 200 some pages the author covers a wide range of end-of-life issues, from family, pain, forgiveness to the celebration of a life. The exercises were as varied: journaling, dreams, meditation, and imaging. I really want to master the heart-centered meditation.
I read the book front to back, but one could read the chapters in the order of interest. Each section deals with separate issues, but all deal with personal growth. The real stories of Conger’s patients tie the book together.
I read this book in order to review it. This book moved me, it re-awoke in me the teachings of my childhood: that is in essence one was born so one could die. Carolyn Conger argues that death, although unescapable, can be an opportunity for self-discovery and actualization.… (altro)

Through the Dark Forest: Transforming Your Life in the Face of Death by Carolyn Conger has numerous ways to deal with imminent death, including many exercises. Most of the exercises would be helpful even if the reader wasn't facing death. The main thrust of the book is learning who you are in order to deal with dying. Each chapter incorporates this idea in a different way. So, I'd guess few people would find every chapter helpful, but I'd be surprised if anyone found none of the chapters helpful.

I'm 63 and feel that I have a lot of years ahead of me, but am aware that one never knows, so the subject is one in which I'm interested. I wanted to give the book more than three and a half stars, but the writing wasn't engaging; it didn't draw me in most of the time. Some of the stories about different clients Conger worked with were engaging and did draw me in, but it was because of the story, not the writing. That's not to say the writing was bad, just nothing special.… (altro)