if you don't have time to read this entire book then i would suggest just skimming through and finding their Quick Tip summary pages where they checklist format share the key strategies and tips which I ripped out for future reference,

some ideas that really resonated with me and I found helpful are the sections on:

1. Being a role model and model how to talk in front of kids

2. Say appreciative things about the child so that they overhear it

3. Find the good in children and appreciate that

4. I found the Teacher Parent relationship chapter to be amazing. They provide insights into the needs of both parents and teachers.

Some ideas I found helpful are...
With teachers at the parent teacher conference... share what works at home, the need that teachers have for parents to try to share information with the teacher about their child so they can learn more about your child and for parents to show appreciation and give feedback for the efforts that the teachers are making, create a plan collaboratively with the teacher according to what your child needs to work on and follow up to let the teacher know that you are trying out the plan, if teacher is giving feedback about your child then one can bring a notebook and rephrase it and write down and say aloud a solution focused action step such as "Ok, ... needs to read more"

5. Brainstorming for ideas with the child, including and listing all ideas (withholding evaluation) and then going through it afterwards to see which to try out ( )

For parents and teachers

Clear, well illustrated, informative, insightful, and helpful. This book explains what to do and say, and why. Many examples are provided. Questions and answers for both parents and teachers are given. ( )

It's really short and easy to get through. 200 pages ~2 hours for a quick reader.

It features examples of discussions between grownups (teachers or parents) and kids and what most grownups do wrong and examples of how to better approach topics.

It's okay for a light read but not as enlightening now as it probably was back in 1996. ( )

The subtitle of this book is ‘At home and in school’, and it’s intended primarily for teachers in schools. In today’s climate, where many children lack respect and motivation, it’s vital for a teacher to be able to inspire a child to think and participate, rather than (as happened too often in the past) by sarcasm, yelling, or punishments. The underlying thesis of this book is that most children do want to learn, if only they can be guided in the right direction, and treated with respect. It would also probably be of use to people leading children's groups or indeed to parents of large families.

Topics are covered loosely in separate chapters which include ‘The Pitfalls of Punishment’, ‘Solving Problems Together’, and ‘How to Free a Child’. The subject matter is very similar to that of the original classic, 'How to talk so kids will listen...', with the difference that other children are involved. Moreover the teacher is not in the same role as a parent: he does not need to teach the child morals or ethics, or even raise him. The teacher’s job is to impart information, skills and learning techniques.

Some of the scenarios in this book left me feeling exhausted, relieved not to be a teacher. But I found it extremely interesting nonetheless. I like the style, the writing pace is just right, the cartoons break up the text a little and put the message over in a slightly different way, and the advice all makes excellent sense. I know from experience that non-coercive respectful parenting is a great way to raise children - and am pleased to learn that this can be the case in the classroom, if teachers take the time to put these principles into practice -while acknowledging that no single book can provide all the answers.

Very highly recommended.
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This book was shelved with the homeschooling books at the library, and although it's not specifically geared towards homeschoolers, it has a lot of great suggestions that I think will be useful to the homeschooler crowd (as well as teachers and parents of children going to school-school).

I love Alfie Kohn's ideas about avoiding punishments and rewards, but his books (at least the ones I've read) are pretty heavy on theory and pretty light on practical application. Faber and Mazlish offer heaps of real-world examples that I've been able to try out immediately with my own kiddos. I would love to have a conflict resolution workshop at my kids' homeschool co-op based on the ideas in this book (but in case any of my fellow co-op parents are reading this, I want to attach an emphatic "Not it" to this suggestion).

The only thing this book lacks is a chapter on what to do when your nine-year-old has read the book ahead of you and is now correcting your technique when you try to implement the suggestions. (This shared reading also led to an interesting conversation with my daughter that began, "Mom, in one chapter they imply that saying 'your mother' is an insult, and I can't figure out why that would be an insult.") ( )