Wayne Muller writes with heart and wisdom as he examines the impact and influence experienced by those of us who grew up in families of pain. Many passages had me nodding in recognition of my life, but just as often I realized that what was described fit my mother or my father. I so appreciate Muller's references to various wisdom traditions, including Sufi, Buddhist and Christian, as he shares practices that help readers melt and move through broken strategies that shut us off from peace, belonging, and hope. ( )