What happens when, in the middle of a happy heterosexual marriages, a woman falls in love with another woman? This book tracks the struggle of loving a man and a woman at the same time. Taking us to her roots in the Ukrainian city of Odessa, and back to the onrushing present in Melbourne, Australia, Katia Ariel introduces us to a lineage of wild and strident women and a few beautifully nuanced men. She invites us into home and heart, to witness love, loss and joy, motherhood, daughterhood and the urgent wildness of the body. Part memoir, part love letter to a woman whose presence broke open a marriage and a whole way of being, this book tells the story of a life breaking under the pressure of an ungovernable heart until the light dawns on a messy and wonderful new selfhood. A lyrical memoir of family, inheritance and queer becoming, Ariel writes with the eyes of a poet and the heart of a true romantic. Her sentences are crystalline marvels, gifts to be savoured and held up to the light.