Brilliant self-help book by an expert and professional. He has thought through every aspect of the issue of self-destructiveness, subtle and blatant, that many individuals indulge in. The author makes the point that attempts at destroying others at any level is also self-defeating. He suggests that one should try to identify the problem and its possible source, and get rid of it along with its source if possible. He has useful ideas for managing old unresolved issues as they spring up, thus avoiding unhappy hours, days and weeks which many individuals go through. How to avoid being the perpetrator as well as the victim in everyday life through healthy communication is also discussed. He has good advice on honoring one's own dignity at any cost. Avoiding stress, coping with old pain, working at overcoming depression, anger and loneliness are all addressed. The day-today problems of human beings have been the same from time immemorial. There are no easy answers, but the author has excellent recommendations for managing them and working toward happiness. ( )