HIGHLY RECOMMENDED.

“Why, and how, do we regard many men’s potentially hurt feelings as so important, so sacrosanct? [She’s just described the common instance of women agreeing to sex so as not to be rude.] “And, relatedly, why do we regard women as so responsible for portecting and ministering to them?” p59

“[Hoffman and Tarzian] found that men received more pain medicatin than women … [W]omen were more likely to be given sedatives instead of pain medication. … more minor tranquilizers, antidepressants, and non-opioid analgesics than men … [B]oys were significantly more likely to be given codeine; girls, acetaminophen …” p79 And then she quotes Hoffman and Tarzian” “Women who seek help are less likely than men to be taken seriously when they report pain and are less likely to have their pain adequately treated.” p80 Surprise, right? Women being taken less seriously than men? Men being taken more seriously than women?

“Such woeful ignorance of pregnant bodies has not deterred many of those who continue to try to regulate them.” p103 She’s referring to the guy who thought that ‘the female body had a way of shutting the whole thing down in the case of rape’. (Wouldn’t that be nice?) And to another guy who thought the stomach was connected to the uterus. She goes on to say “There are evidently many men who feel entitled to regulate pregnant bodies without having the remotest idea about, or interest in learning, how they work.” p105 So well-put.

“As Oberman and Ball put it: ‘The novelty of prosecuting men for abortion_despite the sound legal footing of such charges—tells us something important about the way we have, until now, framed the debate. Boys will be boys, but women who get pregnant have behaved irresponsibly. We are so comfortable with regulating women’s sexual behavior, but we’re shocked by the idea of doing it to the men. … women don’t have unwanted pregnancies without them.'” [p108-9, my emphasis]

“… men often prefer unemployment to taking on jobs in nursing (for example, as a nurse’s assistant), elder care, or working as a home healthcare aide.” p128 showing that “Even paid care work among men is strikingly unpopular. Guess what she’s said about unpaid care work …

Also see Scalzi's https://whatever.scalzi.com/2012/05/15/straight-white-male-the-lowest-difficulty... ( )

Amazing that at this exact moment in time, many things are actually worse than the author wrote about just over a year ago (I’m looking at Idaho and Missouri specifically and their heinous laws). This book does a good job of breaking down the entitlement of men (and really she’s very much speaking about white cishet men here), and it’s depressing that her references all happened in the past ten plus years. Not much hope here that I can see especially knowing what’s going on right now too. ( )

In this bold and stylish critique, Cornell philosopher Kate Manne offers a radical new framework for understanding misogyny. Ranging widely across the culture, from Harvey Weinstein and the Brett Kavanaugh hearings to "Cat Person" and the political misfortunes of Elizabeth Warren, Manne's book shows how privileged men's sense of entitlement - to sex, yes, but more insidiously to admiration, care, bodily autonomy, knowledge, and power - is a pervasive social problem with often devastating consequences.

In clear, lucid prose, Manne argues that male entitlement can explain a wide array of phenomena, from mansplaining and the under-treatment of women's pain to mass shootings by incels and the seemingly intractable notion that women are "unelectable." Moreover, Manne implicates each of us in toxic masculinity: It's not just a product of a few bad actors; it's something we all perpetuate, conditioned as we are by the social and cultural mores of our time. The only way to combat it, she says, is to expose the flaws in our default modes of thought while enabling women to take up space, say their piece, and muster resistance to the entitled attitudes of the men around them. ( )

Pretty standard offering, with basic info that should be readily apparent to anyone with a brain. "Misogyny For Beginners". Well written, especially the chapter on incels, and could be used as a textbook in high schools.

Quotes: "Rather than a deep-seated psychological hatred of girls and women, misogyny is the "law enforcement" branch of patriarchy."

"Women are expected to give traditionally feminine goods (sex, care, nurturing, reproductive labor) to more privileged men."

"Why and how do we regard many men's potentially hurt feelings as so important? And why do we regard women as so responsible for protecting and ministering to them?"

"Testimonial quieting is when an audience fails to identify a speaker as a knower."

"The still prevalent belief is that men are the default humans."

"Boys will be boys, but women who get pregnant have behaved irresponsibly. Although women don't have unwanted pregnancies without men."

"Asking men to pull their weight is in itself a form of labor."

"I carry in my mind exhaustive lists of all types, not because I want to, but because I know no one else will."

"Demonstrable niceness is an imperative for powerful women but inconsequential for their male rivals." ( )