Davidson spent a year with Japan with her husband, Ted. Together, they have jobs teaching English while trying to learn all things Japanese. They make friends who help them with their quest. During this time of total immersion, Davidson becomes intimate with Japanese customs, so much so that when she and Ted are faced with tragedy and their Japanese friends break with tradition for their sake, Davidson is embarrassed and uncomfortable for them. This break from normal protocol touched me. Davidson went back to Japan a total of four times with varying lengths of stay. She and Ted contemplated a move to Japan only to decide the language barrier was too great to conquer. This bothered Davidson. Her inability to learn the language bothered her and shattered her confidence so much so she had to put the books she had written in front of her to reaffirm she is a smart woman.
I promise you, you will walk away with a deepened appreciation for Japanese culture. I did not know Tokyo is chaotic and disorganized in purpose. Streets are unnamed to anonymize people's addresses. How do things get delivered? ( )

Overall this was an interesting and insightful book, just one that I had a few issues with.
Firstly there is the fact it is rather dated, but that is to be expected. In much of the book this was not a problem because as a memoir much of what she is talking about are universals such as identity, friendships and a sense of place. But whole sections - such as the one where she travels with her husband to Paris and all the other tourists seem to be Japanese - are no longer the case.

Secondly - a lot of the personal, non-Japanese parts are not nearly as interesting. Often these would slip in to lists of names of family member. "Bob and Jane, and my brother-in-law Tom, and his wife were there, along with our friend Harry and his wife, and ..." (Not a direct quote BTW). I think the author fell in to the trap many memoirists do of thinking the big events in their life will feel just as important to their readers when it is not the case. Or that they needed to list everyone who turned up to set the scene.

Finally - I did find the fact that in many cases she wrote disparagingly about the 'gaijin' who took the whole 'Japanese culture' thing too seriously - wouldn't mix with other foreigners, tried to be Japanese or at least took traditional culture a little too seriously - a bit hypocritical. This is a woman who built a faux-traditional Japanese house that even her friends say is more Japanese than Japan.

All that said - there are still some great insights in this book, both about Japan and about living a cross-cultural life, both the good and bad. Many 'I lived in Japan for awhile and got a book deal out of it' books have come along since this one, and not that many of them are as well thought out or go as deep as this one does. ( )

Cathy Davidson describes being in Japan as a gaijin and its difficulties and rewards. She has some very interesting stories of people and places she visits. She and her husband live on a professor exchange for a couple of years. They return home to the American Midwest and they find that they pine for Japan. A return trip causes them to rethink their desire to return permanently to Japan. They make many trips over a number of years. I appreciated the tide-like push and pull that Ms Davidson felt for Japan and its customs. She articulated it very well. Good insights into her own thinking and that of her friends (Japanese and gaijin). I shared with Isaac, our friend with whom we stayed while visiting Japan. I think he feels the same love/dislike relationship. ( )

What a great memoir of Japan...I sooo want to got and experience it myself! ( )

This book struck deeply, and given the recent terrible events in Japan, has been haunting me.

I didn't expect to like it that much. I thought, oh, another memoir of an expat teaching English. It was so much more, an incredibly nuanced portrayal of Japanese people and customs.

Davidson has a wonderful writing voice, subtle but persuasive. I would recommend this to anyone who wants to know something more about Japan, and also of what occurs when a person attempts insinuating herself in a foreign culture. ( )